During adolescence, things get so hard that many teens give up. They have many internal and external resources, but they do not know how to use them. Their world quickly becomes a place of great confusion and stress. They face conflicting demands between their parents, teachers and friends. The messages they get through the media and from other sources, like internet forums and social sites, only confuse them more. If you ask teens, though they dedicate every bit of their energy to discovering their identity, they are not sure who they are.
The feeling of low self esteem, not fitting in, feeling left out or feeling lost can cause emotional or behavioral changes that may lead to problems at home. However, increased awareness of the most common signs and symptoms can help reduce the difficulties experienced by families who are affected by low self esteem.
How does bullying affect people?
Does bullying really have such a bad effect on people?
What if the bullying goes on a long time?
Long-term bullying can lead to depression and feelings that you are worthless. Some of these effects can last for a long time, even into adulthood. A person who is bullied may become an adult who finds it hard to trust others, has problems making or keeping friends and lacks in confidence or self-worth.
During times of depression, sadness, stress or emotional anxiety, some people may ‘self harm’ (e.g. self cutting, abusing alcohol) or they may feel suicidal. This is very serious. If this is happening for you, you need help as soon as possible.
Coach Toni has a long history of working with youth and teens regarding bullying. If your child is suffering from bullying or you suspect bullying, please do not wait to reach out.
‘Some kids who are bullied believe it’s their fault. They think there is something wrong with them and they are worth picking on.’ Evan, 14
‘ Believe in yourself. No-one deserves to be treated like that. Bullying is bad... it makes you feel bad – but YOU are not bad – it’s the bullying that’s bad – not you!’ Paul, 18
If you are being bullied you might:
If you are feeling any of these things remember you are not alone and it is not your fault.
There is help available.
Bullying is a serious problem and all of the feelings that you have are to be expected.
It’s time to talk about the problem and GET HELP.